Good Morning my Blog Friends

I am awake at this hour 6am because my daughter is sick. She has asthma inherited from her Daddy plus bronchitis from my Mom. She will go long periods with out being sick then WAMM she get sick.

My husband is better at dealing with it because he had a lot of problems as a kid and visited the ER a lot so he does not freak out. Unlike me who worries a lot.

I think that triggered this latest episode is she slept at her Grandfathers house this week to go get a hair cut (which is really cute, short bob hard thing for Daddy or her Papa to let her cut her hair short you know they think all girls especially little ones should have long hair) and he had just painted a room. I did not realized when I dropped her off it was going to be a problem but when we picked her up the next day she started coughing.

She is only 4 and has had pneumonia 3 times. I have had her to the hospital more then once holding an oxygen mask over her face. That was really scary. She was a trooper though. The nurses could not get over how pleasant she was. There she was, having trouble breathing, telling then a funny story between breaths. She is not a miserable sick person, unlike her father and brother who thinks the world should come to an end when they are sick hehe)

I try not to panic and just take her to the hospital. This is the problem though. The three times when she had pneumonia I had been sitting with her listening to her breath or my mom would be here and say we have a problem. It is hard to tell when she is having trouble breathing and needs her puffer and when you need to go to the hospital. The walk-in clinics are a waste of time. The doctors there do not know you and want you in and out as quickly as possible, they don’t really care what is wrong with you, here is your prescription NEXT…..

She is supposed to sleep over my Dad’s house tonight. His girlfriend and grandson (who is 2 and Gracie loves him to bits) are going to be there. My husband said no because of the fumes and she is already sick. She is so upset. She started crying when I told her she could not go. I feel bad but have to do what is best for her. I am going to ask them to come over here today for a visit.

I also called the tele-a-health line we have here in Ontario that has nurses 24/7 you can speak to. It is a great service we have. The nurse who also happens to have an asthmatic child told me going out in cold weather is also not good. And guess what tomorrow is Santa Clause Parade! OH my… I might park my van by the road so she can sit inside and watch because that would be really sad for her to miss as well so I need to figure out a way she can do that.

I miss my Mom; she always helps me out and reassures me with my daughter’s health. She has experience with this stuff too plus being a Mom/Nanny she has that extra compassion my daughter and I need. My hubby is good but does lack that compassion, you know men, fix and do.

Ok well I should close read some blogs and go check on my baby

Have a great day
Queenie

Went to see the teacher after school today. Was not as bad as I thought it would be. I think she is a little up tight and maybe a little dramatic about some things but we did get along fine. He apparently is not worse then any other kid in the class. It is a group of them they are all the same with the same problems. She is trying to teach them to be individuals which is good. He needs to work on paying attention in school. She thinks that a lot of his and most of the boys behaviour issues has a lot to do with video games and movies. She said it is her soap box issue. I agree maybe some what but not completely. I guess it is good I get my frustrations out here and not at anyone! We are working on a communication system. I still do not completely agree with getting punished at home for something you do at school any more then I think it is right for me to call the school and say "hey Ayden is grounded can you keep him in for recess?". I still have to give Ayden the benefit of the doubt. I am going to help him try to understand behaving better but also give him space to be a kid. He will learn to make better choices, i just have to give him the time to grow a little. Thanks to my blog friends for listening and letting me vent in a productive way! Queenie

Today I am hopefully going to have a meeting with my son's teacher. I did not go to work today because we had a snow storm and I did not want to travel on the already crazy highway with all the accidents.

I think the teacher and I have to talk about his behavior. I do agree his mis-behaves sometimes and that needs to be dealt with. Sometimes I don't think she finds out the whole story before she judges the situation. The Vice Principal said the other day that the teacher is stressed because of all the extra work the have to do with the report cards ect so that may be part of her problem with lack of patients with the kids. Which is not acceptable to me. I asked Ayden about the manner thing with the supply teacher. His regular teacher did not ask what happened of course. He said the kid behind him kept poking him with his pencil and whispering his name. Ayden was telling him to cut it out. He kept it up so Ayden raised his voice and told the kid to stop. The supply teacher SLAMMED his hands on the desk and told them to stop right now. Do you really think SLAMMING his hands on the table was necessary or professional? I don't. You are a supply teacher for one day and you loose your cool so easily? Maybe he should separated the desks or something.

As for the railing, he has been told it is very very dangerous. Unfortunately, he is at an age where he follows and does what his friends do as I am sure I did at that age. I have given him the "if you friends jumped off of a bridge" lecture too. What she failed to point out was that there were several boys doing it, not that it makes it right but it seems like she is singling him out sometimes.

It is true that now a days unfortunately in most cases both parents work. Gone are the days of being able to afford a house and kids on one income, at least at what my husband and I make. So parents do sometimes not spend as much time with their kids as they would like. It is times like this where I miss my mothers guidance. I know what she would say "they are just kids not angles, do you know what you all did when you were kids? don't be so hard on them, this too shall pass"

I know I have a lot of work ahead of me with my boy. I am trying to do my best with him. I think he has a basic foundation his father and I have instilled in him for right and wrong. He just needs to figure out the bumps a long the way which we will help him with. Sometimes it is very hard to be a parent. Hard to figure out what is the best approach to something while still protecting your child. No one is perfect I know but I sometimes wonder doubt and question myself. This is where my Mom would say "don't you dare even say that, you are a good mother and you do the best that you can with those kids and they are very loved" It makes me feel better to say those words and remember she said that. I am sure she has her hand on my shoulder and kicking my ass when needed from Heaven!

I will let you all know if I get to meet with the teacher and how that goes.

Later my Blog friends
Queenie

I have to apologize for all of the spelling errors in my posts.
I am so lazy and used to instant spell check I forget the blogs
don't have a system that automatically fixes them for you!
To be honest, I sucked in spelling in school too but I will try better!

I am really fruterated right now. My son who is 7, is having trouble in school Every day it is something. He is not a bad
kid (at least I don't think so) but I guess you could say he is naughty and mischevious. Especially at school. Today's notes include,

" I received a note from supply teacher yesterday who named Ayden as one of the students who were a behavioural probelm. Could you please
speak to Ayden about respectful hehaviour in class"

"Also, Ayden is sliding down the stair rail although we have apoken about this repeatedley, today I was on duty downstairs and I witnessed him slide down and crash to the floor at the bottom. I am worried about Ayden injuring himself or someone else. Could you please help me to convince Ayden how dangerous this behavour is"

I don't know what to do with him. Yesterday it was spitting in school. When I talk to him he says "yes mommy I know I should not do that" "mommy it was not me but the teachers always blame me and she never listens when I try to tell her what happened" it is such a bad position to be in. On one hand, I am his mother and suppose to be his biggest supporter and he needs me to be on his side and believe him and give him the benefit of the doubt. On the other hand, it is constantly a problem in school. Can all this be happening and it not be sorta some what his fault? I don't know. God help me when he is a teenager.

He really is a good kid most of the time. He can be mouthly and has a temper sometimes but that is normal I think. I have no idea what normal is for 7 I guess.

He is very quite most of the time. He loves his video games (which my father believes is the root of all his bad behaviour). He has tons of friends that are here all the time. He does ok in school, not a big fan though. He is a pretty funny kid with a warped sence of humor he gets from his father. Lets just say gas from anywhere in the body is cool and he just recently learned to talk and burp at the same time which he is very proud of. He can be loving but very reserved with who gets the hugs and kisses.

I am at my wits end, is this normal anyone? Any advice/suggestions?

Queenie