Have not been able to post this week because I have been super busy at work. Two people off and I am covering their desks. I really hate it. It is too much work. It gets me so stressed. I work in a mutual funds department and I look into trades and balance accounts. One of the desks I cover is an offshore desk and they place trades for lots of money. It is very manual and very time consuming and very stressful. The guy who works that desk will be back on Thursday thank god. Ok enough about that...

My sons school is really getting to me as well. Sometimes I am not sure what to do. It seems like my son has a lot of trouble at school. He has had detention a couple of times for play fighting on the playground. His teacher has a "naughty" tree which my sons seems to be on all the time. She has levels, like level one you have been spoken to and up from there to level 6 where your parents get a note. I have gotten lots of messages in his message book. She really bugs me sometimes.

Yesterday he was playing with his spit (ok yes it is gross but he is 7 so to him and his friend spit is funny). The teacher wrote in his adgenda "ayden was spiting on another student and that is not acceptable in school" When I open the adgenda to read it my son put his head down and got upset. I said what is the problem? He said you are going to be mad. I asked him what happened and he said he was playing and spitting on his hand, the second time he did it he accidently spit on the kid. The other kid complained to the teacher and she did not ask my son what happened just assumed he did it on purpose.

I called the vice principal today and told her I had it with the school/teacher. She never even gave him the beneifit of the doubt. She never even took the time to see what was going on. The VP said the teachers were stressed because of the work load and trying to fill out report cards. I said that I don't care, she is a teacher and should not be taking it out on the kids if she has a work related issue.

Bottom line, he is my kid and that is the most important thing to me. I told her so far he has learned from school : If you tell the truth you get in trouble and if you lie you get away with it ( his 4 buddies got questioned Ayden told the truth got detention, buddy lied and did not get into trouble--they do not tattletale on each other) Teachers don't listen to you and dont' care what you say, and big kids can be bullies and get away with it (thursday a grade 7 pushed him down and slammed his head on the ground and laughed, a big girl picked him up and took him to the office where they had to put ice on his head, you should see the bruse).

I asked the VP if the grade 7 boy would be applogizing to Ayden. Nope apparently not. They cannot tell me what punishment the kid received but we suspect nothing happened. Sometimes I wonder are we blowing this all out of proportion? Is this normal kid stuff? I think should I change his classroom teacher? Is there anything I can really do?

If his teacher has something against him what can I do that will not make it worse. And that stupid naughty tree, I said where is the good behaviour tree? Point out anybodies faults enough and you bring them down, kids are worse. It would take 10 great job Ayden to un-do one "move your accorn to the bottom of the tree Ayden". Ug school !

Had dinner with my father and sister and brothers last night. Kind of a memorial dinner for my Mom. Was ok I guess. It is funny how all 5 of us grew up in the same house and we are all so different. We found out my oldest brother is developing a serious drinking problem. My second oldest brother is the one I am closest to. He is a single father and visits me with his girls every other weekend. My closets in age brother and I don't get along so great, he drives me crazy sometimes, he is so cheap and rude sometimes. Then their is my sister. God she drives me. My Dad says Dinner is on Me! Mom would want that. SHe is like NO we should all chip in well at least I am. WHAT EVER.

But you know, I recently read a journal my mother had and she said that wouldn't life be boring if we were all the same and did not have our own personalities. She is right. Love my siblings even though I could kick them most of the time....

Feel like I have missed talking to a friend not connecting to my blog friends, thanks for the kind words about my poem and my mom.

I have to close now, it is bed time and my kids need a story.

Hopefully be able to blog to you all later....

Queenie

Tomorrow is a year since my mom passed away. To me it will always be the memory of that Sunday night. I was at my Dad's today taking some of my Mom's stuff. My sister went there and took a bunch of my mom's angels. She used to collect dough angels. We all used to buy them for her. My sister decided to take everyone she ever bought her and more. She left two. It made me mad because I did not want all the angels for myself but I wanted all of the grand daughters to have one and maybe then one for each of us. But she took them all. My father is changing the house and I know it is partly because eventually by the new year his girlfriend will be there more. I know he is proposing to her New Years Eve. By the summer she will be moved his house. I am ok with that. I know life has to go on. I also understand she would not want to live in a house filled with my mothers things. She is very respectful of my Mom's stuff. She is also leaving the kids rooms (grandchildren have a sleep over room) the way it is just adding her grand children's stuff to it.

I guess I just really miss my mom today. I decide to share a poem I wrote shortly after mom died.

Mom,
I woke up this morning like any other day
But the memories of what has happened came crashing my way

Overwhelming feelings of grief and pain
Will I ever be the same?

You were my strength, my rock, my friend
For love and support & just talking, on you I could depend

How could you leave me so soon?
You were my kids's sun stars and moon

How do I make it through the day?
When this pain will not go away

Did you think I was ready to be alone?
Did you really need to go home?

I am so scared inside
But from my kids this I must hid

For them I will be strong like you
And be there for them like you would want me to

I hope you are happy and free of pain
I hope you and Nan are together again

Please watch over us and help us through
And whisper in our ears what we should do

I will miss you my mom my friend with all my heart
I promise I will never let the family fall apart

Rest my mother I will see you soon
And I will think of you when I see a star sun and a moon

AHHH as I sit here in silence reading the blog site I am in Heaven. Hubby working and both kids at a birthday party. I am suppose to drop into the party and I will... eventually. It is 230-5 so I plan on dropping in around 430. The house is a mess but I don't care for the moment. I am just enjoying not having to do anything for anyone else for a minute. Update on the fish ... well my brother came over with his son and decided to clean the tank a bit because it was dirty (my brother is so another blog) but anyway I let him because he seemed to know what he was doing. He stired up the bottom a bit, scooped out some rocks, cleaned the plant ect. It got REALLY cloudy in there for awhile. I was concerned because babies would have no place to hide from Bruce. Bruce is the meany guppy. I thin he is a boy fish. He eats the others and chases them around and is just a general pain in the ass. I keep threating him if he does not cut out the behaviour that he can find out if all the drains really do lead to the sea! Anyways, as the water cleared I see some babies still there. Maybe not quite as many but that is ok, still a good dozen or so. Read a lot of posts today, gee I think I have actually been on the computer for like a whole hour. But I must get off now and start the laundry, I did not get a chance last weekend and I am sure there is at least half a dozen loads waiting for me..... But that is ok we are running out of underware so I have to do that!! My Dad and his girlfriend are coming over tomorrow to see the kids. It is nice he spends more time with them now and is a much nicer person around the girlfriend, kinda bordering on phoney but you know verse the other way he can be, I will take phoney-ish anyday. Have to work on the kids playroom which is just turning out to be more work then I would have liked..... Got the kids Furby's last night for Christmas. Creepy looking things, have you heard their voice? SCARY. Kids love them though. Ok enough stalling,,,, must go and clean the house! Good Weekend to you all!!! Queenie

I came home last night and my kids said oh mom there is babies in the fish tank. I was like yeah ok guys. They said no mommy LOOK. Now we have had fish for a long time. They started out as like 5 or so and they have babies and the old ones die. I don't know if inner breeding is a bad thing in fish but anyways, the babies grow up and have more babies. So basically the tank has never been empty. But here is the thing, I don't know how many live birth they usually have but they eat their young (yeah I know gross but the tank it only so big, I am not buying another one to accomodate more fish, can spade/neture them and hey survival of the fittest and all that) so in the past you have like one to three babies at a time who live which is managable.

The tank is also dirty and I really need to clean it so I go over to look because now I cannot clean the tank because I might scoop up a baby fish by accident.

HOLY CRAP, NO I really mean HOLY CRAP

There has got to be like 2 dozen baby fish in the tank. Crap. It is only a 10 gallon tank. I have about 4 guppies and 3 cleaner fish (who do a crappy job) in the tank already. That is 7. Technically I am only suppose to have 3 more and now I have 2 dozen! Now I have to find a good home for them because I can not flush them or anything, but I did tell the kids all drains lead to the ocean (yeah I know they don't but when you watch Finding Nemo and your fishy dies it makes is seem a nicer bury place!)

Just thought I would share that with you all! Maybe when I take out the plant and clean it the population will go down a bit......

Queenie

Today is a good day!! This morning I used my new portable DVD player on the bus this morning and will be finishing my movie on the way home. I am actually looking forward to the bus ride! I am watching the Chronicles of Riddick with Vin Diesel ( I LOVE LOVE Vin Diesel )
I have seen the movie a couple of times before but I still love it. The character Riddick is a anti-hero, very scarcastic in a funny sexy way. My favorite scene in the begining is when he jumps on the ship of the bounty hunter and says something like " You made 3 mistakes; one you took the job; two you only brought 4 men for back up, thats f**king insulting; and three your gun barrel is empty".......
Hope everyone has a great weekend and I will blog ya later....
Queenie